February is the month of love, right? And in a few short days, stories of dreamy Valentine’s Day engagements will be splattered across Google, Yahoo, and Bing. You know…those lovey-dovey, romantic stories filled with surprise and bliss. We’ll hear about engagement rings being stashed in gourmet cupcakes, mid-air proposals on hot air balloons, and the “Will you marry me, Suzie?” displayed in bold flashing letters on the Jumbotron at next week’s big game.

My engagement story is filled with wonder and surprise, too. Lo so many years ago, my husband and I had been dating for over a year when things started becoming serious. We’d talked about getting engaged and for some reason when we did, Ron thought it was really hilarious to utter the words, “Will you…mmmmmmarshmallow?” Never, “Will you marry me?” Always the side-splitting, knee slapping comedy act with the ”marshmallow” thing. And of course, you can only imagine my jolly laughter every time he did this…

One weekend, just for fun we decided to go out and look at engagement rings. For some reason, I had my heart set on a marquis diamond, probably because everyone else I knew that had gotten engaged had chosen the standard round solitaire ring. We landed in a jewelry store and I began admiring a pretty marquis surrounded by some other little diamondy things (I don’t know jewelry jargon so bear with me here).

We looked and I “oohed” and “aahhhed” but we left the store empty-handed. No biggy. Valentine’s Day was two weeks away and I had an inkling that I’d be getting a little black velveteen box for the occasion.

The week rolled on and the following Saturday afternoon (the week before Valentine’s Day) Ron and I were trying to decide how to spend the day. Being the shy person I am, I said, “Let’s go back and look at that ring!” So, we hopped into the car and headed off to the store.

As we were driving down the highway, Ron pulled a little black box out of his pocket and handed it to me. I looked at it and fully expected to hear, “Will you mmmmmmmarshmallow?” but instead he said the actual words, “Will you marry me?”

Before I could say yes, I was thinking, “You gotta be kidding me. This is the best you could do? You asked me to marry you as we’re driving down the highway on the way to the mall? This is the story of romance and excitement I’ll be sharing with my children … and their children… for generations to come?”

Well, in case you didn’t figure it out, I did say yes. But (again, being the shy person I am) I let him know I was ticked off and forced him reenact the proposal that evening after a lovely dinner down by the river.

And just to give him the benefit of the doubt, his explanation for the car proposal was that he was afraid to see my reaction if we walked into the jewelry store and the ring I had admired the week before was gone (I understood what he was saying. I’ve been known to punch in walls, kick down doors, and throw priceless vases when I’m angry). Or that the sales people there would recognize him and say, “Soo…how’s that engagement thing working out for you?” despite him not having asked me yet.

Anyway, we’re still married and there have been some quirks and awkward situations along the way but we just nod, roll our eyes, accept the bungle, and plod ahead. And honestly, it was a proposal like no other I’ve ever heard of and will most likely not be imitated. Now, are you jealous?

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13 Responses to “Will You Marshmallow?”

  • Jean says:

    I love it! But I was sure you were going to say he hid the ring in a marshmallow! Truly that would’ve just sweetened the proposal.

    My story is almost as romantic…but I couldn’t get Jeff to even go near a jewelry store. He’d turn pale, break out into a sweat, have labored breathing if we ever got within 100 ft of a jewelry store! He was terrified that he would be challenged to show how much he loved me by the size of the diamond he’d be pressured to buy. So, alas, I went shopping on my own…sans proposal.

    Window shopping one day I found ‘the one’, then I had to figure out how to discreetly let him know he could propose to me now. Pure class, huh? I had all the pertinent info on a business card and gave it to him with a comment like “If you’re ever in the market for a diamond ring you might want to check this one out”.

    I walked past that window and gazed for the next several days. Then one day it was gone. I cried. I took it as a bad omen. Somebody else got that special ring. A few days later before we went out for dinner Jeff said he had a question to ask me…he asked if I could do some typing for him. I cried again. Then he said, “Oh, you didn’t like that question…how about this…will you marry me?” He had the ring in his pocket. I cried tears of joy.

    • Diane says:

      Awwww….how cute! And I’m sure it’s been paradise(just like with us) ever since!! Whatta guy. Despite his jewelry store phobia, he pulled through!

      And yes…a marshamallow would have been thoughtful but there was clearly no planning to be done on his part.


  • Ours was in the car too (how funny!) He just said, “So, I guess it’s time to get you a ring”. And I said “Okay”. It will be our 25th this June 6!

  • Jodie says:

    I love this. Over the top proposals are so unncessary and if I were to do a study I bet I could confirm that the people who have the over the top proposals are also people who aren’t together anymore. My favorite couples had nice sweet low key asks and accepts. Yay Happy Married People!

  • Diane says:

    Thanks Jodie! I think you’re right! Many are over the top!

    What’s really ridiculous is that homecoming and prom are now treated like “mini marriage proposals” amongst the teen crowd. Everyone wants to “one up” the next kid. When I see videos of these things pop up on MSN or Yahoo, I gag and then move on to the next story. I can’t even stomach watching them.

  • Me says:

    LOL – love the story !


  • That’s great! I love those type of proposals…seems more real. Mine? Was…not the average proposal. My husband, God love him, was drunk on Easter when he proposed to me. Yep. I went out with friends for a cookout and hike on Easter, while HE went to his brother’s to…get drunk I guess. Later that night, he found out that a guy hit on me while we were at the park…got so drunkenly jealous and said, “dammit, will you marry me?!”. This was over the phone, mind you. I didn’t even get a real face to face drunken proposal. I got an over the phone drunken proposal. I wasn’t in the best of moods, so I said, “My name’s not dammit, but I guess I’ll marry you, you sot!”. Yep. 4 months later, we got hitched…and here it is almost 12 years later. He’s not been drunk in 11 years =)

  • Byn says:

    “You gotta be kidding me. This is the best you could do? You asked me to marry you as we’re driving down the highway on the way to the mall? This is the story of romance and excitement I’ll be sharing with my children … and their children… for generations to come?”

    LOL!!! That would have totally been my reaction!!!

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